The Power of the Pause

Lessons in Leadership and Self Development

If you are a subscriber to our Leadership Masterminds you know we drill the importance of self development.  In life success, and leadership, there are several irrefutable principles that we must engrave into our lives.  Reflection, the ability to pause and review life,  is one that should definitely be at the top of this list.

Whether you are in a relationship, or just coming out of one; a CEO, or small business owner…it is crucial that you take time out of each day, week, month, and year to reflect on your experiences.


Porn… What’s the ROI?

The thing that makes our brand so intriguing and dynamic is the fact that we love talking to men about real, hard issues.  We like picking their brain to see what really makes them tick.

Yea, sports talk is cool, and we can go with the best of them.  But... let's be real, that's just small talk for finding common ground.  Nothing about sports talk with your buddies brings prosperity.

So when we find things that seem to captivate the minds of men, we become intrigued to learn more about it.  Dissect it.  Peel back the lens on it.

Pornography has been the latest of our endeavors.

We started doing research on the porn industry after our Founder, Marq Neasman Sr., was asked to be the opening speaker at a Men's God Encounter at Faith Assembly, in Orlando, FL. "It blew me away to see the amount of males that came forward to receive prayer for porn.  I don't know if I was more shocked because these were men in the church, or because I was just out of the loop!  I had to remember I was once there too!", says Neasman.


Neasman continued, "I won't fake the funk. I had my struggle with porn. It became apparent to me when I noticed that I was looking at all women sexually.  I would see a woman and automatically go from her hair to her backside, then her toes.  I would envision having sex with her.  This got to be sickening!  I couldn't even look at a woman without thinking about sex."

"I think my breaking point came when I was 24 and I found myself looking at a young lady, and I asked a friend about her.  He gave me a dumbfounded look. When I asked him why he looked at me that way he  said, 'Bro, she's like 16 or 17.'  I was so embarrassed!  I thought to myself,  'if I'm eyeing a 17 year old with that kind of body, then I would I do the same to a 16 year old?'  I was sure that I would...

So if there is a 16 year old with a body like it possible to find a 15 year old!? I thought back to high school...there were definitely 15 year old girls  with bodies like adult women!"

"It got scary at this point, because if I could find a 15 year old I'm sure there was a few younger females walking around with the same matured body.  The thought of me looking at little girls was depressing!  THAT WAS A POINT OF TRANSFORMATION!"

"I broke through when I allowed God to show me the way that He designed women to be.  He had to show me their nature.  That's when it became clear that pornography was placing seeds of deceit in my mind.  I was getting a false impression of the purpose of a woman. It was too much for me to know that I could be caught up looking at a 14 year old girl.  I felt like a pervert!"

"I believe this was the greatest shifting point for me watching porn.  It was the fact that I felt weak...I felt lame...I felt like a peeping tom. There is no doubt in my mind that if I had not broken that train of thought I would not be in a successful marriage today!"

Man lie, women lie, numbers don't lie!

The Barna Group, completed a study on viewers in the pornography industry.  Here is what they found:

79% of Males ages 18-30 view porn monthly
79% of Males ages 18-30 view porn monthly
67% of Males ages 31-49 view porn monthly
67% of Males ages 31-49 view porn monthly

Studies show that the adult film industry accounts for over $13 billion dollars in the U.S. alone!  

That's a lot of  cash flow!  So being the businessmen that we are, we all ask the question...What's the return on investment??? What has people giving so much money to this industry?  How is the successful male benefiting?  Or is it all a lie...

So what is the ROI?

You see, we all know the benefit that comes from purchasing a home.  It results in equity and assets; longevity and security.  We understand the benefit of exercise.  It results in the wealth of health, clear mind, and good habits.  We just don't see the connection with porn here at The Academy of Kings!

We coach many clients that are trying to get out of this addiction.  And most of them do not understand how it came about!  We hear stories about how pornography destroys marriages, ruins relationships, and associates with human trafficking.  It appears that this industry is degrading not only to our women, but ourselves!

Have you considered your baby girl seeing a adult video?  Would she be inclined to assume that's what women do?  What about your teenage daughter?  Your sister?  That could be them.  What about your marriage, and other healthy relationships with co-workers?

Are you really just hurting?  

Sex is a form of gratification and acceptance we all naturally long for as humans.  It sends subliminal signs to both partners that they are loved and adored.  Males (creatures driven by sight) tend to lean toward adult video because they can take their imagination to a place of gratification just long enough to experience a sexual pleasure...But the feeling afterward is often one of great disgust.   Watch this short TedX video by Jason Mahr on the underlining issues of what drives a males to watch pornography.

Consider the Pros and Cons

So here's the thing...You're a King!  That means you have free will to call your own shots concerning how you govern your life.  We are just here to provide the education to help you along the way.  With that being said, do this home work assignment.  Take a full sheet of journal paper, and fold it in half.  On the left side, write down all the good things that pornography brings to your life.  On the opposite side, write down all of the not-so-good things it offers. Take that chart and study over it.  If the cons outweigh the pros then you know it's time to let this puppy GO!!

Now that won't be easy, and you probably won't be able to do it yourself!  That's what we are here for.  Hiring a men's success coach for 3 months can help you bring about the transformation you are looking for in your heart, relationships, and business that you have been longing for! If you can't afford a success coach then get an accountability partner.

We offer The Round Table as a FREE service for males to just be around other individuals that aspire to grow as leaders in their personal, family, and community.

Pornography is more than a pass time when you are bored.  It's more than something funny to talk about with friends.  It's a drug...And it's destroying families, lives, and moral values.  We are kings, so lets do what kings do!

Rule the day!

-The Academy of Kings

This Changed My Life Coaching Business!

A Letter from the Founder

Early on in my entrepreneurial ventures I had the same problem as most others.  “What’s that?” you ask… Well, I was not fulfilled in the work I was doing anymore.  I felt like I was going 90 mph, toward a dead end, with no brake pads!  The money was great, but I felt a burning desire for something much greater!

I knew I wanted to influence males on a global scale.  I had the passion and that was great.  But like they say, PASSION WITH OUT INCOME IS JUST AN EXPENSIVE HOBBY!  I had to find a way to sustain until I could support my family.  So I tried what everyone talks about.

They told me to do what I enjoy part-time, until I could build up the business good enough to do it full time.  It sounded good so I gave it a try for a full year!  I worked as a school teacher and committed to my business a few days out of the week.  My results were not very impressive at all.  I sputtered along…


One Huge Mistake I Made as a Businessman

A Letter from the Founder

“If they can’t tell me at least three major mistakes they have made in life, I am reluctant to take advice from them.”  It’s something I have lived by for a large portion of my adult life.  Now that I am a successful entrepreneur, it resonates even more with me.  I am 30 years old, so I often attract the questions of younger crowds that aspire to become small business owners.  They want insight on what they should do to get where I am. Before I offer advice about what someone should do right, I am sure to be very transparent about what I have done wrong. I believe that sharing with them what not to do will add much more value than telling them what I think they should do.  I think this concept can be applied in many areas of life.


The Five C’s of Good Decision Making

Many of us that are faith-driven individuals may struggle sometimes with how to live out our spirituality in the workplace.  If you are anything like us, you probably believe that the fact you have the job is because God blessed you with it; along with the gifts to fulfill your position exceedingly.  However, isn’t it ironic that the same God which provided the job is hard to be found on the job?  How easy is it to integrate God into the your decision making in the work place?  These 5 C’s will guide you in making Godly decisions in an atmosphere that is not always open to His presence.


Life Tips for Success

A young entrepreneur approached a corporate leader after a seminar and asked, “I’m not very smart but I’m hardworking. Will I ever succeed?” Without blinking an eye, the expert said, “You will definitely succeed! You have three of the most important traits for success: hardworking, knowing what you don’t know, and asking for help.”

We at The Academy of Kings completely agree with that answer. Intelligence seems to be quite over-rated as an ingredient for success. In fact, intelligence can mean trouble for the young, because it can often make one lazy, over-confident and proud. The most successful people in any field are those who ask for help because they know what they do not know. And they work hard.

Keep that in mind the next time you’re tempted to doubt if you’ll ever make it in a world where everybody seems to value degrees and titles above everything else.


What is the Core of Marriage?

A bias post about successful marriage

If you recreated an image of yourself, you would expect it to look just like you.  If it didn’t you would question why it looks different, right?  You would question it because you are perfect the way that you are.  So if the image of you was distorted it wouldn’t sit well with you.  This is the same way that God feels about marriage.  It is something that He created to display an image of His love.  So if God is love, then why is marriage (the image of His love) failing?

Most of us know the percentage…it’s 53%.  Now because we are teachers, we grade everything, and 53% on a grading scale is an ‘F’!    Married men, and those considering marriage, this is one you might want to tune in to…


4 Reasons Christians Make For Excellent Employees

Needless to say, we are an organization that supports entrepreneurship.  However, we understand that there is a place in time where it is healthy for an individual to learn a craft under the security and leadership of those more advanced.  With that being said, we want to present the Top Four reasons we believe that a Christian should be an employers first selection when searching for quality employees.

#1 Lying, Stealing, and Cheating means Death

According to CBS News, a typical organization can lose 5% of its annual revenue to employee fraud. When added to the Gross Domestic Product, the potential global fraud loss can be more than $2.9 trillion. Nearly one third of all employees commit some degree of employee theft. It is also estimated that a third of United States corporate bankruptcies are a direct result of employee theft. The Chamber of Commerce estimates 75% of employees steal from the workplace. Most of which do so repeatedly. The following statistics capture recent employee theft statistics.